scarylibrarian

To piggyback on what BobDylan said about not inciting road rage with a MAGA cult follower, let's remember that the white house is prosecuting anyone who does not agree with their agenda. Renee Good, who was murdered execution-style, is being called a domestic terrorist, and even her wife is being investigated. ICE agents are allowed to literally commit violence against citizens and then those assaulted and injured citizens are being charged.

I have seen a few dating profiles that write their diet preference is vegan or vegetarian. But hopefully, the person is honest enough that if it is a line in the sand, they will communicate that. My son's partner is a vegetarian. No one in her family is a vegetarian, and my large family is not. Therefore, she is used to bringing her own food to family gatherings. When she comes to my home, I always make sure there are plenty of dishes she can eat. I'm going to use her as an example because I never thought it would be so upsetting to vegans to be around us. But now, reading Macphysto's comparison that meat eaters are akin to a child molester, I am re-thinking how I will move forward when I know someone is a vegan. Which for me, personally, is not difficult. I don't consider myself a "carnivore". I try to eat a Mediterranean diet, and I love my veggies. So it would never feel like a sacrifice to eat a vegetarian meal. (like you, ToledoMike!) My issue is, and always will be, the intrusive comments about what people eat. Here is where I don't consider myself a hypocrite. If I know a colleague is MAGA, I don't discuss politics with them. I recently learned a colleague is not vaccinating her children. I'm disgusted but will keep this to myself. I have to work with this young woman, and I sure know how emotional new mothers are. No thank you on that discussion. So I guess it all falls into line. I don't intrude on other politics or religion or food choices. It isn't easy when the same courtesy is not extended to me in the workplace. I can't wait until I'm finally retired and can be more like Macphysto, choosing who to be around in the faculty lunchroom!

I agree with BobDylan. Nothing gets under my skin more than when people make comments about what I eat. I'm lucky to be a size four, yet I've had a co-worker comment, "Do you know how fattening a Caesar salad is?" as I'm eating my Caesar salad. I gave up Diet Coke, but I fully admit it was my "vice" for many years. There was a woman I worked with who was obese. She used to proclaim loudly how she had food allergies, but when there were donuts in the faculty room, guess where she was? One time, she saw me drinking a Diet Coke and didn't hesitate to tell me I was drinking poison. One more anecdotal story (I promise). A woman who was in a hiking group was a vegan. During our long hikes, she would go on and on about the horrors of the food industry. It wasn't a conversation that many of us felt like having while we were trying to enjoy nature. She was obsessed and seemingly couldn't talk about anything else, even when another member deliberately tried to change the direction of the conversation. Both my dog and my cat are rescues. I'm a teacher who struggles to stay on budget, but I will pay extra for humanely raised food products. Is this enough for the vegans? Absolutely not. As the meme posted above states, they view me as a hypocrite. And all that does is create a wedge between us.

I find it refreshing that women are being encouraged to approach a man first. Obviously, Bumble was well ahead in this direction. However, I will tell you that some women have fantasies that a "real man" pursues the woman he is interested in. The man is expected to initiate, and it is a perception of weakness if he doesn't. Please note that I am not agreeing with these traditional gender roles. I have four adult sons and, as a feminist, am very careful about male-bashing. I don't want a world where my sons are subject to such rigid expectations that are not healthy for anyone. Regardless, though, I do feel that, from articles I've read and even anecdotal conversations with single women, they will question a potential date who wasn't pursuing first. As a side note, I've been separated/divorced since 2017. Of the dozen or so "first dates" I went on initiated through a dating app, I pursued all of them. Meaning I made the first introduction. If I had waited to be contacted first, I would have had no dates.

There is a trend among some liberals that we all need to co-exist and "get along". I understand where this idea comes from. Certainly, those of us on both sides of the aisle have commonalities. At the end of the day, we all want to own a home, live in safe neighborhoods and send our kids to good schools. However, I do recall Bill Maher once saying, "There IS a difference between the two parties." One party pulls out racist and homophobic slurs like their morning coffee. Therefore, I do agree that often the other party does not have a soul. After all, how can one sit back and defend what ICE is doing to migrant families? How can one proudly proclaim to be a Republican and not care at all that many people will not be able to afford health care?

The Justice department did not comply with the law that demanded the release of ALL of the Epstein files. Khanna and Massie are accusing the DOJ of contempt of congress and obstructing justice. Are any of us surprised?

Love what you are starting here. In another post (I don't remember where) you mentioned that this is a "beta test". Do you foresee advertising in places like bluesky?

He's already proven to us that he is crazy enough to pardon her. He seems to enjoy watching how far he can go.

I feel lucky that conservatives on dating sites haven't trolled me. But it's probably because I won't match with someone who lists conservative as their political belief. I write my political preference as liberal, and I also write on my profile, "If you are a THE LYIN' KING supporter, we won't be compatible." What amazes me is that I still have men who message me who are conservative. I hate ghosting. It's so rude. If you are not interested, then like BobDylan wrote, be the bigger person and be honest instead of ignoring. But this is the one circumstance where I won't answer a message. Because the guy obviously didn't even bother to read my profile. And unfortunately, I'm concerned that if I do engage, it will turn ugly. Dating apps are difficult enough!

My father lives in a retirement complex in the Phoenix area. When I visit, it feels like a completely different vibe! Do you ever miss NYC?

What's frightening is that some GOP lawmakers call the boat strikes "lawful". Common sense (oh and the military code of conduct) cannot be more clear on this matter. But then again, Hitler had his officers so why should I be shocked by anything anymore?

It took 6 months to finally "investigate" and report on Signalgate. How long for war crimes?

I've been divorced since 2017 and have been on and off the dating sites. Here's my humble opinion, BobDylan. You feel as if you were played because dating apps are basically a game. Swiping, liking, waiting.... then....."Oooh, someone messaged me back!" The rewards are up and down with the ghosting, algorithms, and painful first dates. The only way to survive the game is not to take it personally. Believe me, I'm not above getting my feelings hurt either. However, I do find that when I set realistic boundaries "with myself", I am always in a better mindset. For those of us who still work full-time, it truly can be the easiest way to meet singles. Not that I didn't think the Captain had great advice - volunteering, card groups, pickle-ball, animal groups. However, that isn't always easy with limited free time. I was sorry to read that you felt sad and cynical. Because that was me until I changed my goals. Now I avoid burnout by not having expectations. Change your perspective about the woman who decided not to meet. Look at it not as a missed opportunity but an apparent mismatch. She was obviously not ready to date at this time.

I joined this site to communicate with other liberals. If conservatives are on this site, then I will leave. I'm not here for "healthy debate/exchange" with the other side. Anyone who voted for THE LYIN' KING should be ashamed of themselves. Why on earth would I want to read their reasoning behind the most dangerous presidency in history?

“Research has been consistent over time that voter fraud is infinitesimally rare and almost never occurs on a scale that would affect an election outcome,” said Alice Clapman, senior counsel for voting rights at the Brennan Center for Justice, which advocates for expanded voter access. I cannot read the link that was posted so I'm unsure if the quote above applies.

Oh boy, I have a lot to say on this topic. I will not engage with anyone on a dating app that doesn't list "liberal" in their profile. I won't even "like" a person who lists moderate. Because in this climate, it's time to choose a side. To much is at stake to be wishy washy. I've had men message my profile who were moderate or apolitical. I would politely decline and explain that we would not be compatible. A few would argue "Why is it a big deal?" Umm... because I need to respect the person I'm dating.

The news was sure becoming interesting regarding MTG. It started with her support of releasing the Epstein files then added her thoughts on the health care debacle. I saw an interview where she was asked if Grijalva should be sworn in (when the gutless speaker was blocking it). MTG didn't hesitate to say she should be sworn in immediately. So many Democrats were like "What is going on? I'm agreeing with MTG?" She could have had her moment of courage and become a Liz Cheney. She proclaimed she wouldn't be a "battered wife" to Donald THE LYIN' KING. But instead she let him win. I will never be a fan of hers but for some odd reason, I feel as if she could have made a difference if she stayed through the rest of her term.