scarylibrarian

I feel lucky that conservatives on dating sites haven't trolled me. But it's probably because I won't match with someone who lists conservative as their political belief. I write my political preference as liberal, and I also write on my profile, "If you are a THE LYIN' KING supporter, we won't be compatible." What amazes me is that I still have men who message me who are conservative. I hate ghosting. It's so rude. If you are not interested, then like BobDylan wrote, be the bigger person and be honest instead of ignoring. But this is the one circumstance where I won't answer a message. Because the guy obviously didn't even bother to read my profile. And unfortunately, I'm concerned that if I do engage, it will turn ugly. Dating apps are difficult enough!

What's frightening is that some GOP lawmakers call the boat strikes "lawful". Common sense (oh and the military code of conduct) cannot be more clear on this matter.

I've been divorced since 2017 and have been on and off the dating sites. Here's my humble opinion, BobDylan. You feel as if you were played because dating apps are basically a game. Swiping, liking, waiting.... then....."Oooh, someone messaged me back!" The rewards are up and down with the ghosting, algorithms, and painful first dates. The only way to survive the game is not to take it personally. Believe me, I'm not above getting my feelings hurt either. However, I do find that when I set realistic boundaries "with myself", I am always in a better mindset. For those of us who still work full-time, it truly can be the easiest way to meet singles. Not that I didn't think the Captain had great advice - volunteering, card groups, pickle-ball, animal groups. However, that isn't always easy with limited free time. I was sorry to read that you felt sad and cynical. Because that was me until I changed my goals. Now I avoid burnout by not having expectations. Change your perspective about the woman who decided not to meet. Look at it not as a missed opportunity but an apparent mismatch. She was obviously not ready to date at this time.

Oh boy, I have a lot to say on this topic. I will not engage with anyone on a dating app that doesn't list "liberal" in their profile. I won't even "like" a person who lists moderate. Because in this climate, it's time to choose a side. To much is at stake to be wishy washy. I've had men message my profile who were moderate or apolitical. I would politely decline and explain that we would not be compatible. A few would argue "Why is it a big deal?" Umm... because I need to respect the person I'm dating.